Read the Cleo Magazine (November issue) this morning and
finally saw my problems being answered in the QA Life section. At that time, I was still in a sad/depressed/zombie/don't know what to do with my life kinda mood as it was still one month after my break up. And, I kinda depended on their answers at that time. But after seeing that mine was not published in each issue that came by, I kinda stop hoping for it to come and tried my best to move on.
Alhamdullilah~ with the help of my sisters, mum and my friends, I manage to come out of my trance.
Here's a section from the magazine that I took it out. (Of course I will not write what I had written to them 'cause then this will be a very long blog. Haha~!)
Question: My boyfriend of three years made some bad decisions and was getting further into debt. I broke things off a month ago coz I knew I'd end up settling the debts if he couldn't do so. I now feel empty inside and wonder if I did the right thing. Isn't love supposed to be enough to make you happy?
(The last sentence was the part that, made me realize this is the one that I wrote to them. And when I checked my email again, it was that qns that I ended with.)
Answers:Contrary to popular opinion, love doesn't solve everything. Of course it's important and wonderful, but that's not all there is to it. It's about common sense and discernment too.
It takes work, every single day.Relationships have to exist on a day-to-day basis in the real world, and that’s where many people can’t accept the truth. There’s no such thing as a fairytale romance and maintaining a relationship requires hard work.
Enough is enough.You were together for three years, so he's had more than a fair chance to prove himself. His irresponsibility is clear – instead of getting help, he's getting into more debt. Someone who can't manage money isn't the sort of life partner you'd want.
Remember your worth.If you have a future with this guy, he needs to face up to his problems and show you he's changed. Otherwise you're always going to be picking up the pieces after him. Remember, you're worth more that that.
Hmmm.... I agree on some matters. Especially the sort of life partner tat I'd want. Anyway, I actually feel nothing after reading it. Haha! Maybe it's cause it's nothing to me now and that I'm OK! But thanks Cleo team for still cracking ur head to answer this. ^^
Anyway, if I didn't make this decision for myself......
I wouldn't have met YOU. *smiles*